Here’s what you’ll learn about:

Defining Moments and Early Influences (0:00)

• Host Drew encourages Guest Marléne Shaw to reflect on defining moments that shaped her into a relationship and confidence therapist.
• Marléne discusses the natural evolution of becoming a therapist and the joy of helping others through various mediums like podcasts, books, and YouTube.
• She recalls her early interest in Therapy courses during university and her challenging childhood as defining moments.
• Marléne shares a pivotal moment at night school in her 20s, where a tutor encouraged her to pursue a degree, which changed her life.

The Influence of a Mentor (4:05)

• Marléne recounts tracking down and thanking the mentor who inspired her to pursue higher Education.
• Drew appreciates the story and emphasizes the importance of acknowledging mentors before it’s too late.
• Marléne describes her journey of continuous learning and practice in various organizations, leading to her current work with couples and supervising therapists.
• She believes in the concept of evolving and growing from life’s challenges, both personally and professionally.

Combining Relationship and Confidence Building (5:14)

• Marléne highlights the importance of combining relationship and confidence building in therapy.
• She explains that confidence and relationship health are interconnected and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence in relationships.
• Marléne is writing a book titled “Courage to be you,” which focuses on the natural tendency to be a people pleaser in childhood and the need to reframe relationships as adults.
• She discusses the importance of soothing the inner child and setting boundaries to achieve balanced relationships.

Understanding People Pleasing (6:36)

• Drew and Marléne discuss the concept of people pleasing and its impact on relationships.
• Marléne describes behaviors associated with people pleasing, such as prioritizing others’ needs over one’s own and avoiding conflict.
• She emphasizes the need for balanced relationships and the importance of not compromising one’s own needs.
• Drew suggests replacing the word “compromise” with “collaborate” to achieve a common goal without losing anything.

The Importance of Self-Love and Vulnerability (12:51)

• Marléne explains that people pleasing often stems from a fear of rejection and the need for validation.
• Drew and Marléne discuss the vulnerability of both men and women and the importance of accepting help and being vulnerable.
• Marléne highlights the strength in acknowledging vulnerability and the need for self-love to avoid people pleasing.
• Drew emphasizes the need for societal changes to accept vulnerability and self-help in both genders.

Advice for Younger Selves (15:53)

• Drew asks Marléne what advice she would give to her younger self.
• She would tell her younger self that she is amazing and encourage her to be creative and joyful.
• Marléne emphasizes the importance of recognizing the free child within and allowing it to play and be inspired.
• Drew and Marléne discuss the distinction between the free child and the adaptive child and the need to nurture both.

Entrepreneurial Advice (18:31)

• Drew asks Marléne what advice she would give to her younger self in terms of entrepreneurship.
• She advises her younger self to seek help and support, enjoy the journey, and trust the process.
• Marléne emphasizes the importance of taking breaks and allowing creative flow to happen.
• Drew thanks Marléne for her contributions and highlights the importance of her work in healing and enhancing relationships.

Final Thoughts and Encouragement (19:41)

• Marléne encourages people not to be hard on themselves during life’s struggles and challenges.
• She emphasizes that life’s challenges are part of the journey of Growth and evolution.
• Drew thanks Marléne for her contributions and encourages the audience to take care of themselves.
• The conversation ends on a positive note, with both speakers expressing gratitude and encouragement for personal growth and self-care.

To learn more about Marléne’s mission, go to her LinkedIn profile at https://www.linkedin.com/in/marl%C3%A9ne-rose-shaw-3b21013a/ or her website https://www.marleneroseshaw.com/ 

Marléne’s Bio: Marléne Shaw

Marléne Rose Shaw is a therapist, coach and self-help author. She has helped thousands of people find courage to be their true selves, so that they can embrace life to the fullest and have deeply rewarding relationships. 

About your host: I’m Drew Deraney, the proud father of three children. For most of my life I’ve been concerned with what people thought of me and how I was supposed to act. I learned not to be my authentic self and instead became a people pleaser, a man wearing a mask.

In a 9-month span a few years ago, I endured four faith-shaking life events that caused me to question my existence.

I became determined to find a better way to live. Through intense self-reflection and awareness, I realized that in order to be happy, I must adhere to my standards of honesty, integrity and truth and needed to break free from the belief system that was anchored in me for close to 50 years.

I found my purpose and my mission in life. I’ve now become the man I know I am meant to be. My mission is empowering men ready to make a change to do the same.

My men’s group and one-on-one Coaching provide a safe space for men to share, without judgement, and transform. My male clients learn to release their inner greatness and stop self-sabotage, the #1 roadblock keeping them from reaching their goals.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH COACH DREW:

Website: https://profitcompassion.com/

Email: drew@profitcompassion.com

Book a Coaching Discovery Call: https://link.mavericksystems.online/widget/bookings/netweaving/connect30

Pick up a copy of Drew’s book: https://amzn.to/40dsbyR

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Drew Deraney now travels the world both to Live and Virtual Events showing mostly men the steps needed to strengthen self-identity and self-worth, to overcome self-limiting beliefs, and to build confidence while being authentic, maintaining boundaries and to transcend people pleasing skills to become the person they are destined to be. Drew challenges them to reach deep inside and make a lasting impact.

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