We are honored to hear from two extraordinary young women, Alia and Nahla Ahmed, who have been caring for their mother since the ages of 10 and 8. Their story is one of resilience, responsibility, and the unbreakable bond of sisterhood.
Alia (16) and Nahla (14) candidly share how their lives were upended when their mother suffered a debilitating polio relapse amidst the stress of moving their family. With no other relatives nearby, these remarkable teens became their mother’s primary caregivers, tackling everything from helping her walk to managing the household. Their dedication and maturity beyond their years are truly inspiring as they navigate the challenges of balancing schoolwork, social lives, and the ever-changing needs of their beloved mother.
Throughout their journey, Alia and Nahla have faced misunderstandings from teachers and peers who fail to grasp the full scope of their Caregiving responsibilities. Yet, these young trailblazers refuse to be defined by their circumstances, finding solace in the support of organizations like Australia’s Little Dreamers and the power of their unbreakable sisterly bond. Their story is a testament to the strength and resilience of caregiving youth, hidden in plain sight, and a reminder that these remarkable individuals can thrive with compassion and understanding.
About Alia:
Alia Ahmed is 16 years old and has been a carer for her mother since she was 10, following her mother’s polio relapse. Initially, she helped her mother walk before she got crutches. Now, Alia assists with appointments, cooking, cleaning, and providing overall support and companionship.
About Nahla:
Nahla is 14 years old and has been caring for her mother since she was 8. In late 2018, Nahla, her sister, and her mother left their family home due to domestic violence. Shortly after, her mother experienced a polio relapse, initially undiagnosed, which required Nahla and her sister to help her walk until she received crutches. At home, Nahla and her sister assist with cooking and cleaning to make things easier for their mother.
Known since childhood as “The Elliott Girls” or simply, “The Girls”, it makes sense that we work together to support our mother, and each other. Our trio begins with Jenefer Jane “JJ” who was and always will be “in charge”. She’s the peacekeeper. The responsible one, ensuring Natalie and Emilie remain alive. Next is Natalie, the middle child, who was and always will be Miss Congeniality. She’s the athlete. The rebel responsible for three babysitters exiting the summer of ’84. Then there is Emilie, the youngest, who was and always will be “the baby”. At 6’1”, she is the sensitive and quiet soul. The one responsible for the guinea pig that begged for lettuce and the stray dog we adopted from the bus stop.
After high school we went separate ways, from New Mexico to North Carolina. JJ would go on to get her Master’s in Business Administration and work in the finance world before partnering with her now husband, Dexter, to run a variety of businesses. Natalie would go on to get her Master’s in Social Work degree, and work in the mental health field, advocating for children and families to receive the most appropriate services. Natalie would marry and divorce early on but later marry Jason. Emilie would exit college early to marry and gift us with Owen and twins, Maxx and Natalie Jane aka “The Kids”. Emilie would later divorce and work with county government, focusing much time on caring for the kids.
The source of the sisterhood falls to Jim aka “Big Jim” and Connie, small town high school sweethearts married for almost 40 years.
In 2005, at the age of 52, mom would be diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. She hid the disease for years behind dad’s 6’2” frame. The tremors and sudden inability to move were both calmed and steadied by his arm and simple presence. He was her rock. Our rock. Close family and friends knew of her chronic illness, but to the rest of the world, everything was “fine”. Life would turn upside down when our dad unexpectedly passed in 2011 of a massive heart attack at the age of 58. The assumption was Dad would always be mom’s caregiver but that wasn’t God’s plan.
Mom would spend the years following our father’s death desperately seeking a cure for Parkinson’s while trying to manage her symptoms. As the years went by, the cruel symptoms associated with the disease increased, negatively impacting her body while her mind remained clear and in tune. We lived our lives checking in to make sure she was “okay” but knowing the day would come when we had to do more. And then it did. The summer of 2019 changed everything. That’s where the real caregiver story begins for us. Little did we know she would be only the beginning of our caregiving journey.
In March 2022, Natalie’s husband, Jason, was diagnosed with head and neck cancer. From the first time Jason detected something off about the swollen lymph nodes in his neck, to the formal diagnosis, and the decision to move to New York City to participate in a clinical trial at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, the journey would push them to their limits. The silver lining of his diagnosis was the cancer brought them closer to God, restoring their faith in Him while also experiencing a myriad of blessings through the kindness of family, friends, and strangers. Their story is a testimony that will inspire and offer hope.
