In this fun and empowering episode of The Midlife Makeover Show, Wendy Valentine sits down with Sandy Weiner — Chief Love Officer at Last First Date, internationally known TEDx speaker, and author of three books on Dating and Relationships — to talk about what it really takes to find love in midlife.

Sandy gets refreshingly real about the dating mistakes we make, from the attraction trap to the fantasy-attachment spiral, and why the key to finding lasting love isn’t finding the right person first — it’s becoming the right person first.

From setting boundaries on a first date to discovering your core values through your biggest pet peeves, this episode is packed with practical, no-nonsense Wisdom for anyone navigating love after 40.

What You’ll Learn

•       What’s truly different about dating in midlife vs. your 20s and 30s — and why that’s actually a very good thing

•       How to uncover your core values using Sandy’s simple “what annoys me” method

•       Sandy’s practical “Boundaries in Your Back Pocket” approach for communicating your needs with confidence on dates

•       The attraction trap — and why chemistry can make us overlook major red flags

•       How to know when you’re truly ready to date again after Divorce or loss — and what to do if you’re not sure yet

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Wendy Valentine The Midlife Makeover Show

Wendy is a dynamic speaker, certified professional life coach, author of Women Waking Up and host of The Midlife Makeover Show, ranked in the top 1% globally and #1 in midlife on iTunes and Spotify.

In Wendy's powerful and exclusive group coaching program, she teaches her 7 Steps to F.R.E.E.D.O.M. method, the same tools and techniques that took her from being broke, miserable, and crying on the bathroom floor to becoming debt-free, happy, and laughing in her brand-new motorhome.

Through her personal stories and signature upbeat approach, Wendy is taking the misery out of midlife, helping women worldwide get their groove back, and then some.

Wendy splits her time between the island of Madeira, Portugal, and cruising the USA in her motorhome. Follow her adventures on Instagram @wendy_valentine_ and learn more about Wendy at wendyvalentine.com.