In this interview, psychotherapist Jessica Baum returns to discuss her second book, “Safe,” which expands beyond her first book “Anxiously Attached” to cover all attachment styles through a “Wheel of Attachment,” embedded attachment wounds, and the neuroscience of healing. She explains how attachment patterns shape nervous system responses during conflict. Anxious tendencies can include people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, and escalation, while avoidant tendencies can include withdrawal and shutdown. She also discusses how early caregiver attunement, rupture and repair, and emotional presence influence a child’s felt sense of safety. Baum describes “earned Security” as possible at any age through neuroplasticity and “anchoring Relationships” that provide consistent, warm co-regulation and disconfirming experiences. She notes that people often gravitate toward familiar chaos. She also addresses navigating relationships when only one partner commits to the work and shares practical starting points like mapping core wounds and seeking safe, supportive connections.
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CHAPTERS
- 00:00 Conflict and Attachment
- 00:47 Meet Jessica Baum
- 01:58 Why Safe Matters
- 04:20 Vulnerability and Healing
- 08:07 Attachment Goes Mainstream
- 12:21 Childhood Wiring Explained
- 15:07 What Safety Means
- 20:02 Earned Secure Attachment
- 22:35 Choosing Safe People
- 26:20 When Partners Diverge
- 31:03 Practical Takeaways
- 32:51 Where to Find Jessica
- 33:41 Closing Thanks
Eli Weinstein is a licensed clinical therapist, devoted husband, and father of two, based in sunny Las Vegas. He runs a thriving private practice serving clients in both New York and Nevada, blending expert clinical insight with an approachable, no-nonsense style that makes mental health support relatable and accessible.
Driven by a passion for breaking mental health stigmas, Eli founded ELIvation and The Dude Therapist podcast to create real, down-to-earth conversations about mental health, fatherhood, parenting, and relationships. His podcast features candid interviews with world-renowned experts like Dr. Edith Eger, Apollo Ohno, Dr. Nicole LePera, and Tina Bryson. He’s also been featured on major platforms like The Kelly Clarkson Show, The Trauma Therapist, Mimosas With Moms, and many others.
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