You’re not unhappy, but something feels off. You avoid bringing things up. You tell yourself it’s not worth the tension. You slowly become the easier one in the relationship. Over time, staying quiet starts to feel normal—even though it’s costing you connection, energy, and a sense of being truly seen.
In Episode 256 of Pursue Your Spark, Are You Quiet-Quitting Your Relationship?, I talk with therapist and author Colette Fehr about why so many midlife women stop speaking up in their closest Relationships and don’t realize it’s happening. We explore how emotional suppression becomes automatic, especially when keeping the peace feels safer than risking conflict.
Colette explains why speaking up can feel threatening, even when staying silent causes more harm. We unpack what quiet quitting looks like in everyday life. Not dramatic arguments, but small moments when women swallow their feelings, dismiss their needs, or default to saying “I’m fine.” Over time, those moments create emotional distance, resentment, and a growing disconnect from self.
This conversation also addresses the physical and emotional cost of staying quiet. Emotional suppression doesn’t just affect relationships. It impacts confidence, energy, and long-term well-being. Colette shares why midlife often becomes the turning point when women finally notice the toll silence has taken.
We close with a practical framework for speaking up without blame, drama, or escalation, and for getting back on track in midlife. This episode shows how small, honest conversations rebuild self-trust and Intimacy over time—and why using your voice often feels like relief rather than risk.
If you’ve ever wondered when keeping the peace started costing you more than speaking up, Episode 256 offers Clarity, validation, and a doable path forward.
How to connect with Colette:
https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/
https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr/
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