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Do you have someone in your life who only calls when they need something? Maybe it’s the relative who always goes from one crisis to the next, the friend who vents for an hour and never asks how you’re doing, or the coworker who treats you like their personal therapist.

You care about them but you feel drained by them too. Fortunately, you can show real empathy while also setting boundaries. And this might be the best thing for both you and the other person.

My guest today is Dr. D. Ivan Young, a master certified coach and empathy expert. His new book is Leading from the Heart, and in this conversation he breaks down how to show up for the people you Love without losing yourself in the process.

Some of the things we discuss are:

• Why “putting on a brave face” is actually a performance — and what it’s costing you
• The drowning analogy that finally makes the difference between sympathy and empathy make sense
• How to call out the elephant in the room before a tense meeting (and why it instantly changes the dynamic)
• The “come alongside” rule that can help you start a conversation without triggering a fight
• What to say to a friend going through something you’ve never experienced yourself
• Why open-ended questions are more powerful than any advice you could give
• The “cupcake and a candle” ritual for when you need to feel your feelings and move on
• How to tell if you’re empowering someone or quietly enabling them
• What to do (and not say) when a neighbor or coworker is grieving
• The uncomfortable truth about why the same kind of person keeps showing up in your life

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Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, international bestselling author and the host of the Mentally Stronger podcast. Her books on mental strength, including 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, have sold more than 1 million copies and been translated into more than 40 languages.

She’s practiced therapy for over 20 years and she’s a sought after speaker whose TEDx talk, The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong, has become one of the most popular talks of all time with more than 22 million views.

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