Back on Podcast 31, I was soaking up the many gems from my guest expert,  Aidan Miller about how to deal with a toxic boss. But towards the end, Aidan said something that literally stopped me in my own internal talk track. Do toxic people even know they are?! What if ‘I’ am toxic to others? How can I tell?

Caring whether you are or aren’t toxic demonstrates honest self-awareness and a genuine interest in working with or leading others well. 

As Aidan said to me, “If you spot it, you got it. Then you’re paying attention.”  She got my attention for sure, and I wanted to know more than one episode would allow!

So please join me and the truly awesome Aidan for this encore episode of Real Confidence to detect and detox your own behavior.

We’re digging deep into:

• How toxicity tends to be far less often about bad intent, as about unawareness
• Finding clues about others’ perceptions of you by reading the room (or Zoom)
• The value of looking at feedback as someone’s lived experience versus The Ultimate Truth 
• How even well-intentioned behavior can be perceived as toxic when it lands the wrong way
• What you can do when you realize you’ve behaved in a toxic way

Aidan Millar is an Organizational Development and Learning Specialist in Ontario, Canada and has spent the last decade engaging with various organizations across Canada to help develop individuals, teams and leaders to optimize their potential. Aidan is also certified in a variety of psychometric assessments to assist in promoting insight and awareness. Connect with her on LinkedIn.

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