Discomfort versus Harm in a Conflict One key teaching in my introductory class on conflict is that feelings are not facts. Feelings are real and need to be heard and acknowledged, but just because they are strong, doesn’t mean they reflect the truth of a situation. And when we feel uncomfortable with a topic, it […]

Photo by Michelle Cassar on Unsplash Use your super power to transform conflict. When you envision a super power, what comes to mind first? My wonderful niece, who loves science fiction and fantasy just as much as I do, pointed out to me that the superpowers featured in movies and comics are frequently about making […]

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<img loading="lazy" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-7262" data-attachment-id="7262" data-permalink="https://conflictremedy.com/where-peace-is-lost-to-conflict/peaceflowermosaic-2/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/peaceflowermosaic-1.jpg?fit=2233%2C1348&ssl=1" data-orig-size="2233,1348" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{"aperture":"2.2","credit":"","camera":"iPhone 5s","caption":"","created_timestamp":"1487936148","copyright":"","focal_length":"4.15","iso":"32","shutter_speed":"0.00026802465826856","title":"","orientation":"1"}" data-image-title="peaceflowermosaic" data-image-description="" data-image-caption=" photo by Lorraine Segal ” data-medium-file=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/peaceflowermosaic-1.jpg?fit=300%2C181&ssl=1″ data-large-file=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/peaceflowermosaic-1.jpg?fit=1024%2C618&ssl=1″ class=”size-full wp-image-7262″ src=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/peaceflowermosaic-1.jpg?resize=1080%2C652&ssl=1″ alt=”” width=”1080″ height=”652″ data-recalc-dims=”1″ /> photo by Lorraine Segal Where peace is lost to conflict, how can we find it? Drawing inspiration for conflict transformation from science fiction. I often find science […]

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Photo by Afif Ramdhasuma on Unsplash Are you using blamespeak in difficult conversations? I heard someone use the term “blamespeak” recently and thought it was a very evocative succinct way to express what happens in many conflicts. Something goes wrong in communication, people feel attacked or discounted, and instead of listening or assuming good intention […]