Posts Tagged With ‘ making mistakes ’

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash Love yourself and don’t be a jerk is good advice for any conflict. Why? While I want my clients to see their contribution, to own their part in any problematic situation, self-blame doesn’t help you do this in any effective way. It actually makes you more likely to be a jerk. It may seem counterintuitive, but being too hard on yourself makes you defensive and reactive, and actually decreases your ability to take responsibility and discern appropriate actions. So what does loving yourself look like in this situation? You have to view your mistakes with compassion.... Continue Reading

Photo by David Marcu on Unsplash Reflections: How did you do this year with conflict and courage? I’ve been reflecting on 2022 and the courage my clients and I have shown in dealing with conflict, inner and outer. As those of you who have been reading my blog for a while know, I write a lot about conflict transformation as a process, which requires courage, willingness, and persistence but never perfection! Here are some questions I’ve been asking myself and clients as the year draws to a close. And, I invite you to think about this with compassion and tenderness. There are no wrong answers.  What... Continue Reading

Photo by Varvara Grabova on Unsplash How did you learn to turn your mistakes into stories? This was the thoughtful question Alesia Grace Thompson asked me during my interview on the Mediate.com Great Reads Book Club. Alesia was referring to my memoir, Angels & Earthworms. This was a very rich question for me, with implications for successful conflict transformation. What’s the Connection between Stories, Mistakes, and Conflict? Any of you who follow my blog, know that one recurring theme in a number of posts is the power of stories to transform conflicts and our whole lives. As I’ve... Continue Reading