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Placating, People-Pleasing, Peacekeeping; Are You Undermining Yourself in Relationships?

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Do you find yourself smoothing things over, making everyone else happy, even when it costs you your peace of mind? In this video, we dive deep into the Placating, People-Pleasing, and Peacekeeping, and one more; Puffing Up! We will talk about how these survival strategies set you up in your adult Relationships.

We often adopt these roles to feel safe or to avoid conflict, but over time, they can lead to us losing ourselves, setting up unhealthy dynamics in relationships, and being unable to set healthy boundaries.

What we cover in this video:

The Four Deadly P’s: Placating, People-Pleasing, Peacekeeping, (and Puffing Up).
The Hidden Cost: How staying quiet to keep the peace actually creates a "false" Intimacy.
Self-Sabotage: Why these behaviors are often a Trauma response and how they undermine your worth.
Reclaiming Your Voice: Practical steps to start showing up authentically in your relationships.
Featured Resource: 📘 Out of the FOG, Into the CLEAR; Journaling to Help You Heal from Toxic Relationships: If you are ready to break the cycle of people-pleasing and find your voice again, my book provides a step-by-step journaling guide to help you heal. Buy it on Amazon here; https://amzn.to/3BLpzg1

Choosing to stop placating isn’t about starting conflicts; it’s about honoring your truth so you can build relationships based on honesty rather than fear.

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Shannon Petrovich LCSW, LISAC, BCD Therapist, Author, YouTube Creator

Shannon earned her Bachelor’s degree from Bowdoin College, and her Master’s in Social Work from the University of Connecticut. She earned her clinical licenses in Social Work and Substance Abuse Counseling, and is a Board Certified Diplomate in Clinical Social Work.

Her new book, Out of the FOG Into the CLEAR, Journaling to Help You Heal from Toxic Relationships has attained Amazon Bestseller status in Self Help for Abuse, Codependency, and Personal Transformation.

On her YouTube channel Therapist Talks, she shares insights, information, perspectives, and strategies on a wide range of relationship and mental health topics.

With a very trauma-informed, strengths-based approach, she seeks to help people see the old stories that are in their way, and to fully become the person they were created to be.