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Love Hard On Purpose – MTP 514

  1. Love Hard On Purpose - MTP 514 Scot McKay 32:30

Co-Host John Kim (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/johnkim) We’ve had a number of guests define “love” different ways on this show. My returning guest John Kim, author of the new book Love Hard On Purpose, thinks of it as a deliberate, daily practice. Well, isn’t that the same thing as love being a decision, rather than simply a feeling? We jump right in by talking about whether couples should feel guilty for being happy. John isn’t sure there’s really such a thing as a happy couple. So what does love look and feel like to John? Do couples who love each other fight…or what’s the better word for the healthy kind of expression there? John is from LA and his partner is from NYC. What happens when cultures collide in a relationship? What do most couples fail to do daily in demonstration of their deliberate love for each other? How should couples handle the inevitable evolution of their selves and their Relationships over the course of their lives together? What are some of the subtle traps or pitfalls couple run into when trying to deliberately love each other daily? Does the daily act of loving someone require a break to do something else? For all I talk about taking ourselves less seriously, when should we take our partner particularly seriously? And how should couples handle criticism of each other? In the end, ah screw it…let’s talk about surfing. Get your free copy of Flip The Switch: 5 Ways To Be Better With Women Immediately when you get in on my daily email newsletter at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Scot McKay Dating Strategist

Scot McKay has shared bad jokes with North Korean military officers, sipped coffee at Pablo Escobar’s home (served by his maid), survived a shark attack while surfing, held his breath as the pride of lions walked by his tent, and blitzed through California canyons with his knee on the double-yellow line at 140 mph. Yet somehow, he has also been referred to as the “sane one” on Twitter by Scott Adams, of all people.

But despite once being mobbed by the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders, being able to back a 30′ travel trailer into its slot on the first try, and that time he beat the World Champion at his own sport (no details provided), he’s still the most objective and down-to-earth dating expert out there.

He’s also the most fluff-free fountainhead of original content in his field, if only because that’s what seventeen years of immersive geekery on the subject does for someone.

Scot’s wife Emily is his “proof of concept”, given that she’s just as sweet as she is smokin’ hot and still gets carded at her age. But you’ll never hear her brag about any of that, only Scot.

His show The Mountain Top has also been named a Top 10 Dating Podcast by DatingAdvice.com, and a long time ago Grader.com weirdly ranked Scot the #1 most influential Facebook user in the world.