What happens when being helpful turns into carrying what is not yours?
In this episode of SoundBits, Kim Groshek is joined by Alyssa Utecht for a conversation about boundaries, power, nervous system safety, and the decisions we keep reopening because discomfort feels too hard to hold.
Kim and Alyssa unpack:
Why boundaries are not just walls, but decision lines
How over-helping can take away someone else’s agency
Why resentment, exhaustion, and overwhelm often point to a crossed boundary
The “tennis court” model for clean responsibility
How leaders, helpers, and empaths accidentally carry everyone else’s decisions
Why Clarity without containment becomes UN-DECISION™
The first small question to ask: “Is this mine, or is this theirs?”
This episode is for anyone who has been carrying someone else’s backpack, solving problems before being asked, or staying stuck in a decision that was never fully theirs to make.
This episode isn’t meant to sit with you. It’s meant to move you.
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