1. One Man's Journey With his Mother's Poor Nursing Home Care Phyllis Ayman, MS/SLP, CDP, CADDCT, CDCM, CMDCP 59:51

Robert Peterson’s journey with his mother’s poor nursing home care is unfortunate one that is familiar to thousands of nursing home residents and their families. It’s one I’ve not only heard countless times, but one that I’ve witnessed.

His mother, a frail, thin, woman with advancing dementia was at the receiving end of poor care, inadequate staff training, neglect and abuse at not only one, but two nursing homes.
The second nursing home found the staff abandoning the patients altogether.
Towards the end of this interview, you can the hear the sadness and the drain on Robert Peterson’s heart strings as he fights back the tears.

The story of Robert Peterson’s mother is unfortunately not unique. In December of 2021, the New York Times published an investigative piece ‘How Nursing Homes Worst Offenders Are Hidden From the Public The article’s subtitle was:
Thousands of problems identified by state inspectors were never publicly disclosed because of a secretive appeals process, a New York Times investigation found.

This begs the question about the ability of the government oversight process to accurately inspect nursing homes and cite them for deficiencies. By not reporting bad actors and the situations that occur in these nursing homes, the government is essentially duping the public, Families and loved ones visit the government website to look up the information when trying to determine the appropriate place for their loved one to receive care. How can they make an informed decision if they don’t have the entire picture. Who is to blame?

Whatever the reason, the only people suffering are residents and their families.
There have been numerous investigative reports and Government Studies exposing the nursing ills that are harmful to residents.
Robert’s mother’s story is heart wrenching. No one should have to endure this level of pain, not a son, and not any older adult.

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Phyllis Ayman Ambassador for Conscious Aging Life Management and #1 WSJ and USA Today Best Selling Author, Podcaster

Phyllis Ayman is the Ambassador for Conscious Aging Life Management, and founder of Mindful Longevity Solutions. She coaches individuals to develop their Personalized Longevity or Wellness Care Plans so they can live as healthfully, happily ,and fulfilled as they possibly can. As an aging life careplanning coach and mediator, she guides families to make decisions and mediate challenging conversations around aging care issues. She conceived and owns the trademark IMpathy®, essentially the inner game of empathy, which the hallmark of her proprietary programs.

Ayman is a #1 WSJ and USA Today Best Selling author, featured speaker, panel moderator, trainer, advocate gerontological speech/language pathologist and dementia care specialist. She spent over 40,000 hours working with thousands of individuals and families in long term care. Her writings have been featured in Next Avenue, McKnight’s Long Term Care News and McKnight’s Senior Living, and the National Council of Certified Dementia Practitioner Newsletters.