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Our Most Authentic Self – MTP 522

  1. Our Most Authentic Self - MTP 522 Scot McKay 30:41

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Nobody in Western culture wants to come off as fake to anyone. Authenticity rules, especially if we expect to build meaningful, connected Relationships…especially with MOTOS. But the tricky question has always been about how to know when you’re being your true self. What context is that most likely to occur in…and with whom especially? Well, the hot take this show is built around is that we just might be our most authentic self when we’re around those we feel most comfortable with. That’s a heavy statement…especially if you don’t exactly like who you tend to become around Family, best friends and other loved ones. But is it necessarily true? And even if it is, is it necessarily a bad thing that we can express who we really are and what we really feel with those we’re closest to, even if it’s occasionally unpleasant? Similarly, is it not a good thing to respond plainly and truthfully when they interact with us? And what about “reading the room” and tailoring our behaviors, and even our mindset, to specific situations? Is it “fake” to be adaptive? As it turns out, Emily and I were reminded of this topic and the value of discussing it after a legitimately weird occurrence this past week. We got the perhaps once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to interact with each other as total strangers–even though we’ve been together for over twenty years. How in the world does that happen? Stay tuned for the story…and why it matters. Get in on the special report “Flip The Switch: 5 Ways To Get Better With Women Right Now” when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com.

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Scot McKay Dating Strategist

Scot McKay has shared bad jokes with North Korean military officers, sipped coffee at Pablo Escobar’s home (served by his maid), survived a shark attack while surfing, held his breath as the pride of lions walked by his tent, and blitzed through California canyons with his knee on the double-yellow line at 140 mph. Yet somehow, he has also been referred to as the “sane one” on Twitter by Scott Adams, of all people.

But despite once being mobbed by the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders, being able to back a 30′ travel trailer into its slot on the first try, and that time he beat the World Champion at his own sport (no details provided), he’s still the most objective and down-to-earth dating expert out there.

He’s also the most fluff-free fountainhead of original content in his field, if only because that’s what seventeen years of immersive geekery on the subject does for someone.

Scot’s wife Emily is his “proof of concept”, given that she’s just as sweet as she is smokin’ hot and still gets carded at her age. But you’ll never hear her brag about any of that, only Scot.

His show The Mountain Top has also been named a Top 10 Dating Podcast by DatingAdvice.com, and a long time ago Grader.com weirdly ranked Scot the #1 most influential Facebook user in the world.