Why are so many women over 50 still sexually unsatisfied—and what can actually change that?

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, Suzanne Noble speaks with Malia Lazu, founder of Sunflower Spa, about pleasure, Menopause, and why sexual satisfaction has less to do with your partner than you think.

They explore how women can reconnect with their bodies, stay present during sex, and break free from patterns like faking orgasms, people-pleasing, and comparing themselves to others.

If you’re navigating Intimacy, desire, or confidence in later life, this episode offers a refreshing, honest perspective on what really works.

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ABOUT SUZANNE:

Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast, one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex… or silence about it.

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Chapters:

00:00 Malia Lazu on women’s magic and purpose

01:16 Founding Sunflower Spa in Hawaii

02:28 Leaving corporate consulting behind

03:19 The 69% sexual satisfaction stat explained

06:33 Why women fake more than orgasms

07:15 The grocery list during sex story

10:45 Orgasm one-upmanship among women

15:53 Myths about sex after 50 and menopause

18:21 Childfree women and the taboo of ageing sexuality

21:14 Desentering men from your identity

24:43 Social conditioning and princess stories

29:31 Communication over faking it

32:44 Malia’s closing message on worthiness

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Suzanne Noble Host of Sex Advice for Seniors

I'm Suzanne Noble - writer, entrepreneur and podcaster.

I’m the author of the bestselling erotic memoir The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker and The Not So Invisible Woman, which explores sex, visibility and reinvention later in life.

I’m the co‑founder of Advantages of Age, a social enterprise created to challenge media narratives around ageing. As part of this work, I also co‑founded Startup School for Seniors, an award‑winning initiative supporting later‑life entrepreneurship. This work has been recognised by the Euclid Network, which named me one of the Top 100 Women in Social Enterprise, and by UnLtd, where I received both the Do It Award and Grow It Award.

Separately, I run Sex Advice for Seniors, a Substack bestseller and chart‑topping podcast with hundreds of thousands of downloads.

I’ve also been a finalist for the Exceptional Achievement Award from the Silver Marketing Association, named Startacus Self‑Starter of the Year, and shortlisted for Techpreneur of the Year.

My writing and work have been featured in The Times, Forbes, The Telegraph, BBC, BuzzFeed, Financial Times and The Guardian, amongst others.