Imagine you’re sitting on the couch one evening, looking at your spouse, and suddenly the words just come out: “I’m exhausted. All we do is chase our responsibilities.”
At some point or another, you’ve probably heard yourself asking: When did life become this never-ending list of tasks? When did I start scheduling heartworm medicine for the dog on my calendar but not anything that actually brings me joy? When did I forget that life is supposed to feel good sometimes?
Maybe you’ve tried to fix this. You’ve told yourself you’ll relax after the next project wraps up. You’ve promised yourself a vacation once the kids are older, once you get that promotion, once you have more Money saved. But here’s what actually happens: the promotion comes, the project ends, and somehow you’re just as busy, just as burned out, just as far from joy as you ever were.
Because waiting for joy to find you doesn’t work. The “afters” never come. And in the meantime, you’re spending 90,000 hours of your life—40 years—in the workforce, showing up busy, stressed, and depleted.
This was exactly where Lisa found herself. She grew up with a father who taught her that hard work was the badge of honor in their Family. She learned early that if you don’t have enough money, you work more. And she took that lesson into her corporate career as a healthcare executive, outworking everyone around her, believing that exhaustion was the price of success.
Until the night she looked at her husband and said, “I want to put something else on our calendar. Something fun. I want to chase joy like it’s my job.”
He looked at her confused and said, “Okay, what do you want to do?”
And she realized: she had no idea.
So she went to Home Depot, bought a giant whiteboard, brought it home, and asked her husband to hang it in their bedroom. He said, “Lisa, people don’t put whiteboards in bedrooms.” And she said, “We do.”
That whiteboard became the place where she and her family started building a joy list—things they used to do, wanted to do, could do. And she learned that if you wait for joy to come after everything else is done, you’ll be waiting forever.
If you’ve ever found yourself showing up to work, to your family, to your life as “busy”—if you’ve ever felt like you’re going through the motions just to keep the wheels turning—this conversation is for you.
This is a conversation about giving yourself permission to schedule joy with the same seriousness you schedule everything else. Because here’s the truth Lisa discovered: joy doesn’t happen to you. You happen to it.
Guest: Lisa is a former healthcare executive turned author and speaker who teaches corporate leaders how to create impact while actually enjoying their lives. Her book “Joy Is My Job” introduces practical frameworks for building joy into busy lives.
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