You know they lied. You've seen the evidence. So why can't you just move on?

In this episode, Todd addresses one of the most painful experiences in Relationships: loving someone who has betrayed your trust through infidelity or other serious lies. Drawing from real cases in his practice, he explains the psychological phenomenon of cognitive dissonance—when your reality of Love and commitment conflicts with the truth you're now facing.

Todd walks through three core tensions that keep you stuck: the love you felt versus the reality you're confronting, your emotional attachment versus the evidence of betrayal, and your hope for change versus the fear of abandoning yourself. He explains why it's completely normal to feel confused, even when the facts are clear.

This isn't about quick fixes. Todd acknowledges that some partners do change and relationships can heal, but he's equally honest about the work required and the time it takes to know if real change is happening. You'll hear practical guidance on how to be kind to yourself during this process, how to recognize genuine transformation in your partner (not just crisis management), and how to hold space for hope without losing yourself.

If you're questioning why you can't let go, or if you feel stuck between wanting to trust again and protecting yourself, this episode offers perspective and validation. Todd's 30 years of clinical experience helps you understand what's happening inside you—so you can make clearer decisions about what comes next.

This is honest talk about the messy middle of relationship recovery, where everything feels contradictory and nothing feels simple.

If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who could benefit and leave a review. Your support helps us reach more couples who are ready to transform their lives.

Check out my complete program “From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving” for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship Coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity
• Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
• 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM

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Todd Creager Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd Creager is a marriage and sex therapist who helps couples create loving and passionate long-term relationships. He also is well known for helping couples heal from infidelity. He attributes his success to his ability to understand and help the client understand the deeper factors that block love and connection and contribute to self-sabotage. This understanding is followed up by healing processes that can unleash the innate potential of each partner. He is certified in EMDR, a trauma treatment that helps people move on from past difficult memories. He is the author of the highly acclaimed book, The Long Hot Marriage, and the Amazon bestseller- Love, Sex and Karaoke- 52 ways to Ignite Your Love Life. He newest video program titled Healing Infidelity from the Inside Out is a powerful, relationship-shifting experience for couples who want to heal from this challenging crisis. He has been a guest on numerous news shows about marriage and passion, been a therapist on the Oprah Winfrey Network’s show- Unfaithful and been on Playboy radio as well as other media appearances. Lastly- for twelve years he was a professor at USC teaching graduate students in subjects such as Human Sexuality, Psychological Theory, Leadership and Diversity.