Coaching this generation requires more than demanding effort and enforcing standards. Gen Z grew up under a completely different set of pressures and expectations than any group before them, and their habits, attention patterns, and values reflect that world. Leading them well starts with understanding the landscape they’ve inherited, not the one we remember.
Every generation shows up with its own blend of strengths, blind spots, and cultural influences. Gen Z isn’t an exception—they’re simply the first group raised fully inside the digital world. Coaches don’t have to Love that reality, but they do have to understand it. Start with how they’re wired. says they:
Highest IQ, lowest EQ
Most global awareness
Desire for community without long-term commitment
Preference for experience over explanation
Discomfort with face-to-face conflict
That’s not a character flaw—it’s the natural outcome of the world they grew up in. They’ve lived their whole lives with infinite information, social media comparison, and instant access to alternatives. When something feels off, their phone offers a thousand escape routes. You’re not just competing with another program; you’re competing with distraction.
As Becky Burleigh noted in our conversation, the Oklahoma City Thunder staff framed their challenge directly
“Make your environment more compelling than what they can get off their phone.”
That’s the new coaching reality. Gen Z listens to people who are authentic, who demonstrate competence consistently, and who can explain the “why” behind expectations. They disengage quickly from leaders who rely on authority alone.
They value flexibility, but they also value Clarity. They value Relationships, but only when those relationships feel real. And while the transfer portal draws plenty of conversation, the root is simple: they know they have options. Thirty years ago, athletes couldn’t see what other programs looked like. Now they scroll it.
This isn’t a crisis—it’s a context. The coaches who adapt understand that you don’t coach the generation you wish you had. You coach the one standing in front of you.
Gen Z isn’t impossible to coach—they just force us to be intentional. When we create environments that are compelling, clear, and relational, they respond. When we coach them like it’s 2003, they disengage. The gap isn’t in their character; it’s in how the world has formed them. Close that gap, and you get strong buy-in and real Growth.
Things That Are Making Us Think
“You don’t have to be brilliant, only a little bit wiser than the other guy on average, for a long time”
-Charlie Munger
“Alot of coaches ask for feedback and then weaponize it…if you do that, you’ll never get good feedback again.”
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