Ever wonder why your partner seems to be listening but isn't really hearing you? In this eye-opening episode, I reveal the fascinating neurochemical reason behind why your partner tunes out during conversations or gets defensive when you're trying to communicate.

As someone who's worked with countless couples (and experienced this in my own Marriage!), I'll explain why it's not just about “not caring” – it's actually about what's happening in your partner's brain.

In this episode, you'll discover:

– The surprising role dopamine plays in why your partner might choose their phone over listening to you (and what to do about it)

– Why defensive reactions are actually fear responses in disguise, and how understanding this can transform your conversations

– A practical approach to breaking the cycle of poor communication that creates lasting, sustainable change in your relationship

If you're tired of feeling unheard or want to become a better listener yourself, this episode offers real solutions that go beyond simple communication techniques. I'll share personal examples from my own marriage and clinical practice that will help you create deeper connection with your partner.

Join me as we explore the chemistry behind communication and learn how to make your partner feel truly heard. Because when we understand the “why” behind our behaviors, we can create the loving, attentive relationship we all desire.

This is Todd Creager, making the world safe for Love – one conversation at a time.

Want to go deeper? 

Check out my comprehensive program “From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving” where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship Coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

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Todd Creager Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd Creager is a marriage and sex therapist who helps couples create loving and passionate long-term relationships. He also is well known for helping couples heal from infidelity. He attributes his success to his ability to understand and help the client understand the deeper factors that block love and connection and contribute to self-sabotage. This understanding is followed up by healing processes that can unleash the innate potential of each partner. He is certified in EMDR, a trauma treatment that helps people move on from past difficult memories. He is the author of the highly acclaimed book, The Long Hot Marriage, and the Amazon bestseller- Love, Sex and Karaoke- 52 ways to Ignite Your Love Life. He newest video program titled Healing Infidelity from the Inside Out is a powerful, relationship-shifting experience for couples who want to heal from this challenging crisis. He has been a guest on numerous news shows about marriage and passion, been a therapist on the Oprah Winfrey Network’s show- Unfaithful and been on Playboy radio as well as other media appearances. Lastly- for twelve years he was a professor at USC teaching graduate students in subjects such as Human Sexuality, Psychological Theory, Leadership and Diversity.