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Okay, I Had an Affair. Why Isn’t Saying Sorry Enough? An Interview with Dr. Deborah Miller

  1. Okay, I Had an Affair. Why Isn’t Saying Sorry Enough? An Interview with Dr. Deborah Miller Dr. Bruce Chalmer 39:35

To see the video of this episode, visit https://youtu.be/_Bh4GDawrcw.

There are lots of books out there about how to survive when you’ve been cheated on. But our guest in this episode, Dr. Deborah Miller, has written one for the cheater, called More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity. We talk about how someone who has cheated can do the inner work they need to be able to offer a genuine apology, forgive themselves, and be available to help their relationship heal, whether or not they stay together.

Dr. Miller’s website is https://drdebmiller.com.

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When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter (you can do it right from our podcast website, https://ctin7.com), you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

Dr. Chalmer’s newest book is My Husband Complains About My Cleaning! What Do I Do?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

Bruce Chalmer Dr. Bruce Chalmer

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.”

Dr. Chalmer's books include:
"Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again"
"It's Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong"
"Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back"