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David O'Leary had never seen himself as a caregiver but found himself in that role when his Aging parents nominated him to be in charge of their affairs. As the next to youngest of 5 children, David was surprised by his parents' decision but stepped up to take on the responsibility. He organized his parents' paperwork and finances and helped care for his mother in her final years at home.
After losing his wife, David's father, Joe struggled with loneliness. But on a cruise in his 80s, Joe met and fell in Love with another Widow, Ellis. David supported their Marriage, which brought Joe ten more happy years. When Joe passed, David kept his memory alive with Joe the Monkey, a stuffed animal, accompanying him as he settled his father's Estate.
Throughout it all, David found rewards in caring for his Family that outweighed any frustrations. He encouraged open conversations about planning with his now-adult sons, hoping to ease their future as caregivers. With humor and dedication, David approached his unexpected caregiver role with the same love and commitment he has had for his wife of 41 years. His story shows how Caregiving brings families together across generations through life's challenges.
About David:
David O'Leary is a retired insurance executive with a long career in the industry. He is the fourth child out of five, with one older sister and three younger brothers. David has been married for nearly 41 years and has two adult sons. One of his sons is married, although, much to David’s chagrin, he does not have any grandchildren yet.
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Known since childhood as “The Elliott Girls” or simply, “The Girls”, it makes sense that we work together to support our mother, and each other. Our trio begins with Jenefer Jane “JJ” who was and always will be “in charge”. She’s the peacekeeper. The responsible one, ensuring Natalie and Emilie remain alive. Next is Natalie, the middle child, who was and always will be Miss Congeniality. She’s the athlete. The rebel responsible for three babysitters exiting the summer of ’84. Then there is Emilie, the youngest, who was and always will be “the baby”. At 6’1”, she is the sensitive and quiet soul. The one responsible for the guinea pig that begged for lettuce and the stray dog we adopted from the bus stop.
After high school we went separate ways, from New Mexico to North Carolina. JJ would go on to get her Master’s in Business Administration and work in the finance world before partnering with her now husband, Dexter, to run a variety of businesses. Natalie would go on to get her Master’s in Social Work degree, and work in the mental health field, advocating for children and families to receive the most appropriate services. Natalie would marry and divorce early on but later marry Jason. Emilie would exit college early to marry and gift us with Owen and twins, Maxx and Natalie Jane aka “The Kids”. Emilie would later divorce and work with county government, focusing much time on caring for the kids.
The source of the sisterhood falls to Jim aka “Big Jim” and Connie, small town high school sweethearts married for almost 40 years.
In 2005, at the age of 52, mom would be diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. She hid the disease for years behind dad’s 6’2” frame. The tremors and sudden inability to move were both calmed and steadied by his arm and simple presence. He was her rock. Our rock. Close family and friends knew of her chronic illness, but to the rest of the world, everything was “fine”. Life would turn upside down when our dad unexpectedly passed in 2011 of a massive heart attack at the age of 58. The assumption was Dad would always be mom’s caregiver but that wasn’t God’s plan.
Mom would spend the years following our father’s death desperately seeking a cure for Parkinson’s while trying to manage her symptoms. As the years went by, the cruel symptoms associated with the disease increased, negatively impacting her body while her mind remained clear and in tune. We lived our lives checking in to make sure she was “okay” but knowing the day would come when we had to do more. And then it did. The summer of 2019 changed everything. That’s where the real caregiver story begins for us. Little did we know she would be only the beginning of our caregiving journey.
In March 2022, Natalie’s husband, Jason, was diagnosed with head and neck cancer. From the first time Jason detected something off about the swollen lymph nodes in his neck, to the formal diagnosis, and the decision to move to New York City to participate in a clinical trial at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, the journey would push them to their limits. The silver lining of his diagnosis was the cancer brought them closer to God, restoring their faith in Him while also experiencing a myriad of blessings through the kindness of family, friends, and strangers. Their story is a testimony that will inspire and offer hope.
