It is also important not to let someone dictate your process. There are many ways to work through your loss and there isn’t one size fits all. Healing will happen in stages.

The end of a job is a loss – it can be a loss of income; a loss of a sense of purpose; and it can also be the loss of a structure that you thrive in.

Each loss is different and recovery will most likely look and feel different too.

Recovering from a loss of a marriage

So many people don’t see divorce as a loss to be grieved especially if they are the one filing. But the reality is it IS a loss to be grieved.

The process of packing up our homes and moving from 3 homes to 1 was a process that took months, but the grief has kept me from visiting the places we once loved so much. It isn’t the same without him and sometimes, even now, that grief sneaks up and makes the visit so unpleasant that I just avoid those places altogether.

When he died I made the decision that I would not look to fall in love for as long as it took to heal my heart. That decision isn’t for everyone, but I felt it was right for me. I didn’t want to compare a new relationship with the one I lost.

If he is or isn’t the right person for me, I am looking forward to exploring that possibility. My heart has healed and I am ready to find love again.

Don’t let anyone rush your journey. If you need a therapist or life/love coach to help you. Find one that works for you. Put you and your healing first so you have it in your heart and life to bring the best of you forward.

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