Family businesses don’t usually fail because of bad numbers.
They fail because of broken trust, unspoken resentment, and the conversations nobody wants to have.
In this episode of The David Watson Podcast, I’m joined by Rene Sonneveld, a Dutch executive coach based in Uruguay and author of The Elephant in the Family Room.
Rene works at the intersection of leadership, governance and human psychology, helping family enterprises tackle the real problem underneath the “business problem”: the invisible capital of trust, identity, communication, role Clarity and belonging.
We also explore a powerful parallel from my work in head injury rehabilitation: when life changes in an instant, families often grieve the person who was, struggle with who someone is becoming, and collide over expectations, fear and control.
Rene shares a deeply personal story about his first wife’s brain Cancer and the question that haunts families in crisis: if they wake up, who will they be?
If you’re navigating family conflict, succession planning, sibling rivalry, inheritance disputes, or tension inside a family-owned business, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening, why it’s so hard to fix alone, and how honest communication becomes the load-bearing wall that holds everything up.
Key topics in this episode The “elephant in the family room” and why families walk around it for generations
Why family businesses fail relationally, not financially
The hidden drivers beneath conflict: relevance, respect, safety, fairness, belonging
Why governance structures can look perfect but still collapse
How sibling rivalry and old emotional patterns show up as “strategy debates”
Listening vs hearing: what people are telling you vs what they’re trying to tell you
Why bringing in a neutral facilitator can unlock stuck family systems
How Rene went from governance and banking to Coaching families worldwide
Writing as a tool for self-awareness, perspective and better leadership
Find Rene and his book Website: https://www.renesonneveld.com/
Book: The Elephant in the Family Room (available on major retailers including Amazon)
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