What if the parts of you that once kept you safe are now the very things keeping you stuck?
In Shame Out Loud (Part 3), host Lori Clarke sits down with co-host Tammy Valicenti (EMDR specialist and founder of TransformSolution) and guest Carina Ghosh for a raw, soulful roundtable inspired by Lori’s creative writing piece Child and Woman (Episode 95).
At the heart of this episode is a shared metaphor: the forest – the internal place where parts of us go to survive. Where fear lives. Where young selves still wait. Where old rules learned in silence continue to run the show.
This conversation names what so many people feel but rarely say out loud: dissociation, survival patterns, parentification, emotional neglect, shame, the “not enough” story, and the long, embodied return to wholeness. Together, Lori, Tammy, and Carina explore how our bodies carry what our voices could not, and how healing isn’t about comparing wounds, but about telling the truth out loud with people who get it.
You’ll hear about scattered parts, boundaries that finally hold, and a tender, radical truth woven throughout the conversation: It is a revolutionary act of self-Love to say, “This ends with me.”
Question to sit with as you listen: Where are you still performing for safety, and what part of you is waiting to return home to yourself?
This is Part 3 of a 6-part Shame Out Loud series. If this message resonates, you can purchase the writing companion on Lori’s website to explore the themes, reflections, and integration more deeply.
00:00–07:00 — Welcoming Karina & first reflections on Child and Woman
07:00–15:30 — Sensitivity, intuition, and navigating chaos
15:30–23:00 — The forest as a place of protection
23:00–30:00 — Scattered parts and emotional survival
30:00–38:00 — Moonlight, darkness, and feminine safety
38:00–46:00 — Creating inner refuge and the cottage metaphor
46:00–54:00 — Belonging, love, and coming home to self
54:00–1:05:00 — Reconnection, compassion, and closing reflections
