When Your Kids Feel Too Independent with Shannon F.

Shannon has a 6-year-old and an almost-8-year-old who are struggling with burnout from distance learning. Shannon is a very busy business owner, and as a result, her children have developed a disproportionate sense of independence. They are often verbally, and even sometimes physically, defiant.

Today, we talk about what’s behind this behavior. We talk about the power of quality time coupled with a kitchen timer. We discuss the small ways Shannon can give her kids more control over their lives, and I note the importance of letting your kids know they don’t have control over your emotions. We talk about how Shannon can apply my CLEARR Method to this situation. I also talk about how she can effectively explain to her kids that acting out emotions physically is perfectly okay, but that hitting people is not.

“Letting them know that they have control over our emotions allows them to keep doing and acting in those ways.”

– Sue Groner

This week on The Parenting Mentor:

• The power of quality time (quality not quantity)
• The power of a kitchen timer
• Little ways to give your kids more control
• Why your kids need to know they don’t have control over your emotions
• The CLEARR Method
• Acceptable vs. unacceptable ways to act out physically

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Susan G. Groner Founder of The Parenting Mentor, Author, Podcaster

As an experienced mother of 2 young adults, Sue Groner knows how stressful and overwhelming parenting can be at times. She founded The Parenting Mentor to provide an ally for parents in their quest to raise confident and resilient children. Sue is the author of Parenting with Sanity and Joy. 101 Simple Strategies, is the host of The Parenting Mentor Sessions Podcast, and is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator.

Sue is also the creator of the CLEARR method of parenting, developed through years of trial (and her fair share of errors!) with her own family. CLEARR adheres to the belief that parenting strategies should be grounded in six important pillars: Communication, Love, Empathy, Awareness, Rules, and Respect. This has become the cornerstone of her practice as The Parenting Mentor.

A graduate of the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and a former advertising executive, Sue is a frequent guest expert on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox to name a few, and provides advice for many national publications and websites such as The Wall Street Journal, Parents, Real Simple, Today.com, HuffPost, and Katie Couric Media. Sue resides in New York City and Bedford, NY with her husband, and when she’s lucky, with her children. She is available for private and group mentorship sessions(in-person or virtual) nationwide for individuals and corporations.