1. When Your Child is Craving Attention with Alanna G. Sue Groner 19:19

Allana’s 5-year-old son has trouble controlling his anger. When he wants something, he wants it, and he’ll ask and ask until he gets it. When he doesn’t get it, he’ll throw a temper tantrum and sometimes act out physically in his anger.

Today, Alanna and I talk about what could be behind these temper tantrums. We talk about how being the oldest kid can affect the amount of attention a child gets and how the child will often act out to try to get the attention he craves. We discuss how to overcome the temptation to just not deal with him when he’s being difficult. We talk about the importance of putting yourself in his shoes, as well as of letting him know that it’s okay to feel these emotions while at the same time setting clear boundaries about the right and wrong ways to respond to them. We talk about the effectiveness of setting aside alone time with your child, as well as giving him responsibilities around the house. We conclude with some takeaway practical advice and the importance of establishing “good” and “bad” as modifiers of behavior, not people.


“You’re making an emotional connection with him. And that is what’s important.” – Sue Groner


This week on The Parenting Mentor:

  • A possible source of relentlessness and disobedience
  • Why it’s important to set aside one-on-one time with your child
  • How to make your child feel that they’re an important part of the family
  • How to deal with your child when you don’t want to be around them
  • Setting boundaries for how to respond to anger


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Susan G. Groner Founder of The Parenting Mentor, Author, Podcaster

As an experienced mother of 2 young adults, Sue Groner knows how stressful and overwhelming parenting can be at times. She founded The Parenting Mentor to provide an ally for parents in their quest to raise confident and resilient children. Sue is the author of Parenting with Sanity and Joy. 101 Simple Strategies, is the host of The Parenting Mentor Sessions Podcast, and is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator.

Sue is also the creator of the CLEARR method of parenting, developed through years of trial (and her fair share of errors!) with her own family. CLEARR adheres to the belief that parenting strategies should be grounded in six important pillars: Communication, Love, Empathy, Awareness, Rules, and Respect. This has become the cornerstone of her practice as The Parenting Mentor.

A graduate of the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and a former advertising executive, Sue is a frequent guest expert on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox to name a few, and provides advice for many national publications and websites such as The Wall Street Journal, Parents, Real Simple, Today.com, HuffPost, and Katie Couric Media. Sue resides in New York City and Bedford, NY with her husband, and when she’s lucky, with her children. She is available for private and group mentorship sessions(in-person or virtual) nationwide for individuals and corporations.