1. THE TIES THAT BIND: A KANDID CHAT ON TRAUMA BONDS The Kandid Shop Podcast LLC 41:07

!CONTENT TRIGGER WARNING!

This episode contains discussions about domestic violence, abuse, and trauma bonding, which may be

triggering to listeners with similar experiences. Please, please, please engage in Self-Care if you choose to continue to listen.

 

I had the opportunity to have a kandid chat on Trauma Bonding, a prevalent issue experienced by people in abusive relationships.

I was joined for this discussion by two incredible women who shared their insights and perspectives on the subject:

Lianne, the Creator and Host of the Personal Development Podcast: “Watch Us Thrive.”

&

Natasha D’Arcangelo, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Clinical Trauma professional, Certified Compassion Fatigue professional, and educator.

Key Takeaways

  • Trauma bonds are the emotional attachment formed between a person and their abuser which often makes the victim feel compelled to stay in the relationship.
  • Trauma bonds cut across races, ethnicities, cultures, and socioeconomic status -Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • There are different ways a relationship can be abusive that are not physical – Lianne
  • Parents might meet their child’s physical needs but may not meet their emotional needs, causing long-term emotional damage – Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • When a relationship progress very quickly, it is likely a red flag – Lianne
  • The victim may think that the good days outweigh the bad ones, but it will get worse over time, and leaving can be difficult – Lianne
  • You can be in an abusive relationship even if you’re not being physically harmed. Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time for the victim – Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • It’s best to provide resources and support to those in abusive relationships rather than lecture them to leave -Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • If you’re in an abusive relationship recognize your worth and understand that you deserve better – Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • Detaching and healing from an abusive relationship can start with speaking up and using your voice to take your power back – Lianne
  • It’s not your responsibility to fix an abuser who is broken and needs professional help – Lianne
  • Every person deserves a healthy relationship – Natasha D’Arcangelo

Trauma bonding is a piece of the whole domestic violence situation and everyone’s situation is different. If you’re a victim, reach out to someone for support, whether it’s a professional counselor, domestic violence shelter staff, or friends and family.

RESOURCES: If you or someone you know is in a violent relationship, help is out there:

  • Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
  • Text START to 88788
  • RAINN -Call 800.656.4673
  • Trans Crisis Hotline (888) 843-4564
  • Trevor Project(LGBTQIA+)(866) 488-7386
  • Crisis Text Line: Text START to 741-741

 

 

Guest contact info:

Lianne

Home

https://www.instagram.com/watchusthrivepodcast/

 

Natasha D’archangelo

https://www.linkedin.com/in/natasha-darcangelo/

natashadarcangelo@gmail.com (Not encrypted so no personal info should be emailed)

 

About Guests:

Lianne

Lianne is the creator and host of the Watch Us Thrive podcast, a platform that focuses on

personal development and mental health. Despite never having considered public speaking

as an option before, she now finds herself fulfilling this role with great passion and

enthusiasm.

Through the Watch Us Thrive podcast, Lianne aims to shine a light on important topics such

as the need for mental health care, the importance of healing from trauma, and ways to

reconnect with one’s inner self. She understands the value of having conversations around

taboo topics that people may be hesitant to speak about openly, and has created a safe

space for such discussions.

Lianne believes that normalizing uncomfortable conversations is crucial, which is why her

podcast covers topics that people may be uncomfortable discussing but are necessary to

address. The Watch Us Thrive podcast provides a platform to talk about the sh*t that people

don’t want to talk about, but needs to be talked about. Overall, Lianne’s dedication to helping

others thrive is evident in the work she does through her podcast.

 

Natasha D’Arcangelo

Natasha Natasha D’Arcangelo, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in three

states Florida, Oregon, and Washington, a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC), a Certified

Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), a Certified Compassion Fatigue Professional (CCFP),

and a Compassion Fatigue Educator.

She received her Master of Arts in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Argosy University,

Sarasota. She works with adolescents and adults in her role as a staff therapist for

Headspace Health.

Natasha’s previous experience includes 15 years as an educator, community mental health

worker, and private practice. She has presented on various topics including destigmatizing

Mental Health Care, Compassion Fatigue, and Effective Techniques for Working with Teens.

She operates from a cultural humility perspective and is an ally of the LGTBQIA+

community. She is especially passionate about working with clients who are struggling with

trauma and anxiety.

 

Intro Music: “Welcome to The Kandid Shop” by Anthony Nelson aka BUSS

https://music.apple.com/us/artist/buss/252316338

 

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