In this episode of the EZ Conversations podcast, Furkhan welcomes Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. Dr. Debi shares her personal and professional journey through betrayal, highlighting her groundbreaking discoveries around betrayal Trauma. She discusses the five stages, from betrayal to breakthrough, emphasizing the importance of moving through these stages for proper healing. Dr. Debi also touches on the spiritual aspect of healing, the role of forgiveness, and how both the betrayed and the betrayer can grow through the process. Listeners will gain insights into navigating betrayal, overcoming victim mindsets, and emerging as resilient individuals.
Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award-winning speaker and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast, From Betrayal to Breakthrough, ranks globally within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals and any other blocks preventing them from the Health, work, Relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.
The site: https://thepbtinstitute.com
The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU
TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro
The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:50 Dr. Debi’s Personal Journey with Betrayal
01:55 Understanding Transpersonal Psychology
03:28 The Healing Process and Family Impact
05:07 Discoveries from the Betrayal Study
14:57 Rebuilding Trust and Moving Forward
21:36 Post Betrayal Syndrome
24:14 Understanding the Impact of Unhealed Betrayal
25:45 The Power of Healing and Facing Beliefs
27:13 Physical Manifestations of Emotional Turmoil
28:25 The Betrayer’s Responsibility to Heal
31:32 The Five Stages of Betrayal to Breakthrough
43:10 The Role of Forgiveness in Healing
45:58 Final Thoughts and Resources
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I am a men's coach, therapist, group facilitator, podcaster and author. My journey began five years ago when I was going through a separation. I found myself alone and in a shame spiral that our culture and society covertly exert on people due to the perceived "failure" of a marriage. Unfortunately, I personalized that message which led me to fall deeper into a hole, causing me to surround myself with people that did not serve me and engage in substance abuse. While seeking therapy, I was not making the wholesale changes I needed.
As part of my experience with therapy, I realized that I am not alone in the challenges men my age experience (I separated at the age of 34/35). I realized I could be a voice for men like myself and offer support in this space. In the middle of the pandemic, I applied for a Master's degree in Psychology to become a therapist. This change was a significant shift for me as I worked in the corporate world as an engineer. Once I leaned into the space of supporting other men, I also started a podcast to normalize these difficult conversations and started a men's group a year later with the support of a friend.
I thought I was giving something back when I started the men's group. However, I quickly realized I was getting substantially more from the connections I built than I initially anticipated. It was also something I needed because I was going through another breakup.
At that point, I also realized that I had not taken the time to heal, and I was outsourcing my healing through romantic relationships, substances, material acquisitions and superficial relationships. I decided to step away from the outgoing lifestyle and started to focus on my healing which was another phase of evolution for me on my journey. Over the last year and a half, I have become mindful of the people I spend my time with. I have cleaned my lifestyle of substances, toxic environments and behaviours. I have focused on my sleep, my health and my knowledge. I have improved my spiritual relationship with myself, which was lacking the most over the past five years. This is the best I have felt.
As part of my solitude journey and to find myself again, I also released a book encapsulating my journey, which I hope to share with others. My book is titled: The Pursuit of Self-Love.
