Are you a woman trying to get your man to try couples Therapy with you? You’ve tried asking, pleading, cajoling, threatening, nagging, buttering him up, using all your favorite communications techniques–and none of it has worked. He keeps telling you why he won’t go. But wait–what if there’s another reason?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

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Bruce Chalmer Dr. Bruce Chalmer

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.”

Dr. Chalmer's books include:
"Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again"
"It's Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong"
"Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back"