Do You Know What Patriarchy Really Is? Seems like a good time to reflect about the bigger and deeper picture right now. Patriarchy doesn’t only play out as inequality between men and women, or oppression of women by men. All forms of inequality, injustice, exploitation, and rigid ideologies are rooted in patriarchy, which many don’t realize is rooted in geographical trauma. Patriarchy wasn’t a natural evolutionary urge nor was it inevitable. Patriarchy represents a one-sided valuing of the masculine (not meaning man) at the expense of the feminine (not meaning woman). Children... Continue Reading
Deborah Lukovich
Yep, you read that right. What the heck could you possibly learn about your first post-divorce relationship by exploring your dream about ferrets? It happened earlier this week, during a session with a client. I’m a depth psychology coach, which means my expertise is the language of the unconscious, the keeper of most of the knowledge about who you are and the hidden motivations behind all the choices you make. It became clear my client and I were onto something bigger than just a personal insight two days later when on my walk to the beach, I came across a couple walking their ferret. I... Continue Reading
Did you know that there are some insights about yourself you just can’t acquire through the mind? I know this from personal experience, and the first time I gained an insight through my body, it blew my mind – in a great way! Allow me to lay a little groundwork. First, science affirms that unconscious forces make up 95% of who we are – how we think and make decisions, emotional reactions, personality quirks, and even to whom we’re attracted. Second, you can think about your ego as consciousness, the part of you that knows what it knows and thinks it knows all there is to know. Your... Continue Reading
In this post, I write about the experience of midlife through the lens of individuation, a term coined by C.G. Jung, one of the founders of depth psychology – the study of the unconscious. My favorite writer on the topic is Jungian Analyst, Murray Stein, and one book you might enjoy is, The Principle of Individuation. You can think about individuation as the process of coming into relationship with all the stuff that’s been sitting in your unconscious for decades. The unconscious can be thought of as your shadow because some of those hidden aspects of you are sneakily following you around,... Continue Reading
Listen to Chapter 1 of my book on my podcast–Dose of Depth Follow me on Instagram FIRST, my apologies for neglecting my blog readers. There’s a good reason though, and a perfect example of how surrendering to your Soul’s secret agenda, even if it’s just one baby step at a time, will always bring the reward of moments of intense joy. I never imagined I would be having so much fun being a podcaster. Six months ago, I mentioned to someone that I wanted to do a podcast, and four months later, an email showed up in my inbox that led me to exactly what I needed to plan, design, record, produce,... Continue Reading
If you like this post and the podcast episode that goes with it, please share with others in your network. And follow me on Instagram for daily reflection prompts and updates on my writing, blogging, podcasting, and coaching Two years ago, I wrote this blog post: Sex, God & Transcending Patriarchy. It was a summary of a session I presented at a community conference that combined research about women’s experience of reconciling sexuality and spirituality with my personal story of midlife unraveling and finding my Sex and God wounds. It was also the beginning of the shutdown phase of COVID-19,... Continue Reading
First, don’t forget to follow me on Instagram and share this post if you like it. Second, check out my new podcast, Dose of Depth. Onto this week’s post: There’s a purpose to things falling apart. You might not see it–the bigger thing that’s trying to emerge–but it’s there. The personal is also never just personal. Your unique experience of everything happens within the collective and contributes to larger movements of belief and action. Once I stopped resisting the falling apart of my marriage, all sorts of things became clearer, things that had nothing to do with my... Continue Reading
I’ve been having a whole new set of feelings lately—a mixture of feelings that’s difficult to pin down. A kind of malaise has overtaken me these days. All I know is I don’t like it! But I’m not running from the feelings this time, or pushing them down, or hurriedly trying to replace them with more pleasant feelings. I tried, but they’re not going away, so I’m sitting in them as if I was a child sent to the corner for a time-out. Part of me is amused with myself because having these feelings means I’m finally free. And then I recalled that saying about being careful what you... Continue Reading
Happy New Year! Yes, one day can make a difference! In this post, I take on dream symbolism particularly suited to the idea of fresh starts, rebirth, and transitioning to new ways of being—the image of clothes. I share journaling of six dreams about clothes that I had throughout 2021, along with the meaning I assigned at the time. You will be able to see the progression that might have stayed hidden had I not taken a second look. Then I include excerpts from my new book, Your Soul is Talking. Are You Listening? 5 Steps to Uncovering Your Hidden Purpose to help you get started working with your... Continue Reading
Welcome to my End of Year Countdown Reflections! During the last days of the year, my shorter blog posts and Instagram videos will prompt you to explore what lies beneath the surface. Even a little reflecting, journaling, and paying attention to your dreams the last week of the year will impact your start to the new year. Click here to read my first post if you missed it: Feeling Peaceful? Shall we start with a poem? Drive Oh no, time to go For what, for whom, I don’t know I’m not ready yet But something is calling me Get in the car, and just drive —Me If you follow me on Instagram... Continue Reading